Online dating still carry a stigma especially in a ‘conservative’ country like the Philippines. If you tell your friends or relatives that you’re dating a guy you’ve met online, I’m sure that at least 80% of them will raise an eyebrow. Most people see this modern type of dating as desperate, shallow, creepy, and dangerous.
I also used to dislike the idea of it… until my friends forced me to sign up on Tinder 😛 At first it was entertaining for me, seeing funny narcissistic photos and learning about the often predictable conversational lines of men. And then, without me knowing the effects of those evil apps, swiping profiles became a habit for me (especially while pooping bwahahaha).
And while plenty of people have bad stereotypes on online dating, we should embrace the fact that these modern-day apps are now 1) widely used by millennials and 2) great tools to find whatever dates you’re looking for.
Just like any kind of dating (speed dating, dating someone you danced with in a bar, dating your admirer, etc.), online dating has its pros & cons and your Tita Jazz will let you know why you should and why you should not try it out:
1. Why you shouldn’t:
You’ll meet shallow people. The crazy worlds of Bumble, Tinder, OKC, etc. are full of creeps, fuckbois, stupid, and shallow people. Sometimes it will make you question the capacity of humanity and why men cannot carry decent conversations beyond “hi how are you” “you look sexy” “where do you live” “what do you do” “I’m staying in Sofitel. Wanna hang out?” Yes, the world can be a sad place.
Why you should:
You’ll meet incredible people. The incredible worlds of Bumble, Tinder, OKC, etc. can be secret hideaways of smart, witty, funny, sincere, and handsome people. Sometimes it will make you believe in humanity again and question where you’ve been hiding all these years, away from these incredible men. Believe it or not, I’ve met great friends, sweet dates, and travel buddies through Tinder— athletes, musicians, journalists, scientists, and other incredible human beings. And I would not have had the chance to meet them if my friends did not force me to try online dating 😉
2.Why you shouldn’t:
You’ll lose hope in love and humanity. Sorry to break it to you but I’ve seen a lot of married or in a relationship guys on Tinder. Some of them are even boyfriends/husbands of my friends. And to make things worse, these polygamists have the balls to post photos of their girlfriends, wives, and/or families.
Why you should:
You’ll hope in love and humanity when you match with your college crush, that smart gentleman guy living just five kilometers away from you, or that handsome guy sharing 101 interests with you.
3. Why you shouldn’t:
It gets boring. After 500,000 swipe-lefts, 1800 matches, 1500 how are yous, 418 unmatches, 400 profiles saying “just trying out this app,” 399 profiles saying “ If we meet for drinks and you don’t look like your profile picture, you’re buying until you do,” 200 seenzoned conversations, you’d feel like everyday is Monday.
Why you should:
It’s entertaining. Where else can you see profiles of unlimited gym selfies, duck faces, and badass bios? In case you skipped my intro, I have to emphasize again that online dating apps are the best bowel movement-inducer and insomnia-killer.
4. Why you shouldn’t:
You will receive the worst pick-up lines. You will be called names that you do not want like baby, sweetie, angel, hottie, sexy, goddess. You will unconsciously memorize stupid copy-pasted opening lines with bad grammar and weird emojis. You will sometimes feel like you’re a cheap prostitute desperate to get laid.
Why you should:
You will feel good when you chance upon guys with creative ways to boost your self-esteem. Online dating chats do not often lead to real dates, but sometimes you’ll learn a lot from these people behind those screens (food recommendations, film suggestions, song playlists, country facts, weird trivias, showbiz news, basketball updates, etc.)
5. Why you shouldn’t:
Online dating can be very convenient especially if you do not have the time to go out or if you have a small social circle. BUT the sad truth is that it is most of the time fleeting. 99% of the time your Tinder matches will turn out to be perfect for one-dates only, will ghost you… or bore you to death. Sometimes even the seemingly perfect guys who are good conversationalists will suddenly disappear the next day. Sometimes the best dates you’ll have will only last for one or three dates. And because everything here can be temporary, it will sometimes make you callous and distrust relationships.
Why you should:
99% of the time, you’d get bad matches. But wait until that 1% comes into your life. It’s just like meeting guys in a gym or a club… or eating chocolates. You’ll never know what you would get. Maybe 99 out of 100 boys are just looking for fun but maybe there is that 1 guy who is also looking for a real relationship. Slim chance, I know. But maybe he’s worth all that finger pain from swiping.
6. Why you shouldn’t:
There will always be risks: Of getting catfished. Of him being a fuckboi. Of him being a bot. Of him turning out to be just your friend who’s playing a prank on you. Of seeing your relatives on Tinder. Of him turning out to be stupid. Of him dating 1000 of your other single friends.
Why you should:
There is still that slim chance that he’s an amazing human being with values, interesting hobbies, good hygiene, incredible travel stories, meaningful life stories, and sweet cologne. And maybe he looks 10 times better than his photo with a sedated tiger.
7. Why you shouldn’t:
It can be a waste of time. Minutes of swiping. Hours of chatting. Decades of finally deciding to meet that guy… and then the guy turns out to be the most heartless and stupid being you’ve ever met. Sometimes you will regret that day you installed that evil app.
Why you should:
He can be worth your time. I’ve met great travel buddies (more than Couchsurfing did for me) and nice friends through these apps. I almost fell in love (ehem, it took great force for me to type that four-letter word) thrice because of some amazing guys who are way out of my league. I know some of my friends who met their boyfriends/girlfriends through Tinder and they’re still going strong 😉 And as a bonus, these apps will help you be a good conversationalist, hone your intuition, expand your social circle, and realize what you’re really looking for.
CONCLUSION:
Tinder, Bumble, OKC, and other online dating apps out there are supposed to help us meet people in this fast-paced world. Just like any kind of dating, people have different reasons for their pursuits. There will always be two sides of online dating. You may choose to be skeptic about it or you may embrace those tiny chances of hope. Do not expect too much, but at the same time, do not lose hope. At the end of the day, it’s you who’s choosing those profiles, it’s you who’s deciding if your match is a date potential.
Have a fun and safe swiping! <3
And to all my in a relationship/married friends and relatives, don’t you dare judge us ‘coz you don’t know the feeling of “It’s A Match!” :))
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